Find your true purpose with coaching

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person writing and drawing in notebook

Why life coaching? Well, if you’re thinking about making progress in life with a clear strategy, the answer may already be obvious. Basically, it’s not easy to simultaneously hold a vision, map out a path, walk that path and measure your own progress all by yourself.

Clarity out of confusion

If you’ve ever embarked on a major project of any kind will recognise the sense of overwhelm that can sometimes take some of the excitement away from proceeding with your vision. I experienced this myself when I began as a musician. As I thought about the kinds of problems I faced, I came to understand and accept that it would always be difficult to have both an overarching view of my long-term goals, a cogent understanding of my near-term strategies, and a confident and simple approach to walking my daily path. The reason was clear: each of these activities requires that I adopt a different perspective. And it’s hard to be in more than one place at a time. Often I would be conducting one activity from the perspective of another. So no wonder I occasionally felt confused and overwhelmed.

Finding solutions

Life coaching offers a solution by providing objective recognition, validation and reinforcement. A life coach helps you to clarify your goals, test your plans against your resources and your intentions, and measure your progress. A coach also asks you to live up to standards you set together. I think of the kind of business coaching and life coaching that I practice as motivating. It’s about advising, focusing, and encouraging my clients to find solutions to their problems. From there, they can achieve personal growth and a way of being in the world that flows organically and authentically from who they really are.

Becoming your true self

Life coaching can introduce you to the self you were meant to be. The time you invest in the coaching process will be amply repaid by your greater ability to recognise, nurture and evoke that self. Discovering your passion and purpose is vital to your joy and well-being. In our society, we tend to ignore our special talents, and choose a career hoping for a sense of security. But too often, what makes us feel safe does not fulfil us at a deeper level.

It may not always be possible to change your work immediately to something you love. But if you follow your passion, it will often lead you there. And even when you have to earn money in ways that might not utilise your talents, you can seek volunteer opportunities and hobbies to express who you are. And these can lead to the work that you will eventually do. There is a deep desire within you to express yourself in ways that give you joy. It is your job to discover what that is and to bring it about.

I am a qualified life coach and hypnotherapist, experienced in coaching clients to help them make the changes they want in their lives (see my success stories). And I can help you move forward too, whether you seek career coaching or support in a new venture altogether. I am based in Canterbury, Kent and Peckham, London SE15; and also offer online sessions, wherever in the world you may be. Please feel welcome to call me on 07947 475721 for a free no-obligation 15 minute phone consultation to see how I can help.

 

Time for life changes? Make them a success!

life changes that succeed

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Raise the subject of new year’s resolutions in January, and you’re likely to get some mixed reactions – from guilty admissions of falling off the wagon, or finding the prospect too daunting to even try. So how can we tackle making life changes that stick, new year or not? Fortunately, there are some ways we can make getting off the starting blocks easier.

One step at a time

First of all, there’s the bite-size approach, where the elements of a goal are broken down into manageable chunks. Let’s take the example of writing a book. Once you’ve defined the subject or storyline, how will you fill those empty pages? A sensible approach would be to break it down into chapters. Maybe then you might outline each chapter structure. Perhaps then you’d work out how many words a day you can realistically get down. Of course you need to take your other commitments into account. And you might have to sacrifice something else to make time – watch less TV perhaps – to reach your goal. But if your aim is realistic to begin with, once you’ve made a start, you’re well on your way to making the life changes you want!

Which leads me onto the next crucial element: turning something into a habit. Research shows that we are far more likely to succeed at something once we incorporate it into our daily routine. Basically this sidesteps our brain’s tendency to question it. Even if you can only make a little time each day, the important thing is to do it regularly. ‘Little and often’ make the process easier, and helps it become part of the natural rhythm of your life.

Work smarter

And to enhance that natural process, we can use a little extra cleverness. If you’re a morning person, it makes sense to work with your early bird tendencies. So set the alarm half an hour earlier, rather than try and incorporate your new habit later in the day when you may be more tired. And if you really want to give yourself an extra push, take advantage of moments in the day when you can visualise yourself going through elements of your task – and succeeding. Your brain will respond accordingly!

Finally, the best bit: reward yourself. Track your progress, set yourself achievable milestones along the way, and be sure to celebrate once they’re achieved – perhaps with friends or family who are supporting you. For many, sharing their achievements is a magic ingredient of motivation. But if you’re flying solo, give yourself an extra reward for your strength and determination. Above all, cut yourself some slack and don’t give up if you hit a setback. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep your eyes on the prize. And if you need a little motivation boost, I recommend this download.

A qualified hypnotherapist or life coach can help you achieve your desired life changes if you need a little extra support on your journey. I am based in Canterbury, Kent and Peckham, London SE15; and also offer online sessions, wherever in the world you may be. Please feel welcome to call me on 07947 475721 for a free no-obligation 15 minute phone consultation – and check my success stories to read about clients who I’ve helped to make changes in their lives. Good luck!

(Published on The Hypnotherapy Directory, 3 January 2018)